I had a meeting with my senior project partners yesterday. I, naturally, served as the session’s devil’s advocate, in which I argued the opposing view on almost every question. I was reminded how useful having a devil’s advocate in a group thinking session is. I also re-realized how hard dealing with such a person can be for some people.
Personally, I always have my BS sensor on. High. As soon as I detect a bit of uncertainty or an improperly validated statement made, my first question is something to the effect of, “How do you know that?” I’m somewhat of a logically rigorous person, so it bothers me to hear something confidently said that hasn’t been validated.
It is known that there is a purpose in the presence of a devil’s advocate. This person will, for lack of a less aggressive term, attack every weak point of your argument. If you survive a session with this person with your idea still intact, then you have a relatively cohesive idea. If not, you need to go back to the drawing board and patch up those weaknesses.
On the other hand, this person can be a nightmare for some people. I mean, who likes having their good ideas occasionally ripped apart? Then how many people deal with that well? Unfortunately, ideas sometimes get blown to smithereens around these argumentative artists, and it can be hard to withdraw and rethink for some people.
To the optimistic idea-machine: When dealing with a devil’s advocate, keep an open mind. Even though you produced this idea, take the time to sit it to the side and separate yourself emotionally from it and objectively discuss it. The idea will endure criticism, but it’s part of the growing and strengthening process. Just remember that your idea emerges as a better idea after defeating scrutiny.
To the devil’s advocate: Know your subject and surroundings. If you’re naturally a devil’s advocate, maybe you attract objective people who can look at things the same way you do, and even appreciate your views. Or maybe you attract more carefree people, who are less prone to take your opposing propositions personally. Remember, especially in the case of new acquaintances, there are people who are prone to take opposition to their thoughts and ideas personally, and may not immediately appreciate criticism. There are also times and settings where playing the devil’s advocate is not appropriate, like brainstorming sessions, where criticism is never allowed.
Take the time to let people know that you are not attacking their ideas. Let them know that you’re just seeking clarification. This gives them the opportunity to feel like their answering a question and shedding light rather than defending their brain-child.